Dear Annie: Last year, I married the most beautiful boy I met. I am 40 years old and wish I had known her before, but better late than ever. In our honeymoon for a month in Europe, we attended a music festival. During the festival, my husband and I saw some other pasta women and, at a time of flirting, I did something completely out of the character and bought some cakes and a bright thong. I spent the next day dancing and partying in this revealing dress with my husband. I think everyone has to have a wild moment in their lives and I had a lot of fun.
After returning home, I found out that the festival had hired a photographer for photos for their social media accounts. There I was in three online photos that I had only the thong and the brightest cakes on my breasts, dancing in a mini stage they settled in the crowd. The pictures are not intended, so no one would connect them to me, and my friends think they look hot and not a big deal. I’m my own business, so I don’t need to worry about employment and, for the moment, only my friends know it. Still, I’m too embarrassed to say to my husband.
Should I confess -I am in these pictures that will forever exist? Should I try to take the photos in some way? Should I even feel ashamed? When I really think about it, it’s probably not a big deal, but when the feelings of shame are introduced, I don’t know what to do!
—Festival Flashback
Dear Flashback Festival: Honesty is the best policy, especially in marriage, and this is not so much a confession for your husband as simply to share with him what you have found. He was there with you, also participating in the event, even if there are no pictures of him to prove it.
You are in a lucky position where the pictures do not affect your work or your personal life. However, if contacting the festival or social media account is easy enough, it is worth asking if the photos can be demolished; You may matter more and wish you did before. Do not let this happy, carefree and innocent moment of the past become something you won for now.
I was invited to a party, but I had to pay my own card, help!
Dear Annie: My wife and I were recently invited to the University of a friend’s University in a two and a half hours bar from our house. When we arrived and asked for our first cup, we were told that all foods and drinks were on the individual tabs.
Would the host not mentioned in the invitation? It is advisable to ask about costs like this before RSVP? My friend could easily afford to pick up the meeting check. Surely I am happy to have the money to cover what we asked for.
—And on the tag
Dear perplexed: Yes, the host should make it clear in the invitation. If the party had been at home, no one would expect to pay food or drinks, so it is reasonable to think that the same would be true in a different place, especially one you were traveling hours to get there. If the hosts were not willing to make the invoice, they should have been in this regard.
In the future, there is nothing wrong with asking for more details when an invitation is a strike, especially in the public places again. “Will food and drink be provided?” It is a completely fair question to be asked in advance and allows you to make a completely informed decision before committing to anything.
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