Dear Annie: There is a young child in my son’s school, he is 6 years old, who has a story of being very physical with other children, including my son. They were in the same class before, and my son would return home, sometimes with bruises, saying -me that boy had hit him or pushed him during the day. Luckily, they are no longer in the same class, but they ended up in two different sports teams together last year. And the same goes on.
My son recently returned home after practice with a bruise on his back where this boy struck him. He was not the only one. Other children have also been injured, nothing that can jeopardize life, but enough to cause pain, fear and frustration. What hurts me most is that the boy’s parents do not apologize. The mother, in particular, seems to excuse or decrease the behavior, treating it as if it were too poor, while other children are injured.
I feel protective and, frankly, angry. I want to defend my son, but I also do not want to be that father who makes waves or other family. I thought about just removing my son from the team but why should I do he Do you have to lose something you enjoy because of the behavior of another child?
I wonder: what is to be done here? How can I protect my son while I still try to show compassion for another that I can fight? And is there a way to address it with other parents or the coach without getting worse?
– Mama worried
Dear worried: You are right to worry -you, and your instincts are going on.
No children should be expected to tolerate physical aggression, especially in an environment that is supposed to be safe and fun. Sports are aimed at creating confidence and teamwork, non -bruises and anxiety. The fact that this behavior is recurring in different environments tells me that this is not an isolated problem and that it must be addressed.
You don’t need to remove your child from the team. This would punish him for another person’s behavior. Instead, talk directly to the League coach or organizer. Explain calmly what happened and how your child affects. Focus -You are in security: not to blame. Ask what steps are to protect children and what can be done progressing.
As for other parents, it is unfortunate that they have not increased. But his denial does not mean that you have to be silent. If you feel comfortable, a direct but respectful conversation can help you, but not counted. Some parents need more to grow than their children.
At 6 years old, your child needs you as a defender. Trust yourself. Protecting it is not excessive; It is a good aging.
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