Dear Abby: I have hemifacial spasm (HFS), a relatively rare disorder characterized by random and uncontrollable spasms on one side of the face. Sometimes HF can be relieved by surgery and/or treated with botox injections. HFS makes social contact a challenge when the face contorts any apparent reason, sometimes with an attached speech speech.
In my case, surgery was not successful, and my only option is Botox, which leaves a wider eye open and my mouth unable to move naturally or smile on the one hand. I am learning to accept this facial asymmetry like my new normality, but I am not yet there.
I am aware of taking my photo, but those that the camera fanatics insist and persist. Can you help me with an answer that I can use in photos that refuse to take an answer, or worse, tell me “only smile”, something I can no longer do?
—The Conscious of the Middle West
Dear Self -Conscious: I have several suggestions about your problem. The first is that not everyone is equally talented to administer Botox. The person who manages your dermatologist? If the answer to this question is yes or no, you can benefit you to consult more than one.
Since it is sensitive to taking the photo, it tells the photo lender that you either prefer not to be photographed and why, or explain that you will not smile for obvious reasons.
Another thought: consider positioning -you are for your more photogenic side to face the camera, as many celebrities do when they are asked to put on.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend embarrassed me when he told me to apologize to a woman behind the market. He was about to pay for groceries when I said he would run for an item he had forgotten. It took less than a minute and the order continued to increase.
When I re -included the article, I apologized -to high voice to the woman on the line behind it. Abby, still paid! I wasn’t even in the row when I went to seek the mustard. As he was still there, I thought he had told him to wait for me.
This is not the first time you have done something like this. I don’t think I had done anything wrong and even if I did, I could have told me privately and did not make me feel like a bad child. I would feel different if we had left the box line, but I hadn’t. I thought I had the line for me.
—No boy in Florida
Dear not a child: If there had been a long line, I can understand that again seeking the mustard could have caused a serious disadvantage. Since there was no, your boyfriend should not have embarrassed you in the way he did. Since it was not the first time he has done something like this, we suppose it derives the satisfaction of doing it. Think a lot about whether you really want a future with a partner like him. (I know I wouldn’t.)
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