Dear Abby: In the four years, my husband and I have been married, her discomfort for the LGBTQ community has become a passion. He calls him immoral and unnatural. I have never tried to change his opinion, but since I am not excited about him, he is convinced that I go to hell. Use almost all conversations as an opportunity to share your feelings on this topic. Any voluntary response is not unknown.
Shortly after our wedding, my father revealed that he is gay. Luckily my husband can be kind to him as he misses his sexuality. I’m not sure my father knows the scope of my husband’s negative feelings. (They live in different states so they rarely look.)
My problem is that my father recently devoted himself to his partner and I’m not sure how to say -my husband. I do not ask you to agree with my father’s life, but I don’t want to steal my joy for this event or make me feel guilty to go to his wedding. I will certainly go alone. Tips, Abby?
– Ally to Michigan
Dear Ally: Yes, I have some. However, it is wider than you could expect. May your husband discount or “not listen” what you need to communicate -it does not occur well for the future of your marriage. Your father’s sexual orientation can be abominated with your husband, but it is not “unnatural”. If you would like to attend your father’s wedding, do it and do not feel guilty about having supported him at this important moment. You will not go to hell to love and accept your father, in fact, quite the opposite.
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