Dear Abby: My husband works out of state for a 20 -day oil company outside the month. It has 10 days off. When you get home, we may have two days of quality time together. The rest of your time spends your phone outside.
When I recently had spinal surgery, he returned home to help -me. My doctor instructed him to follow after surgery. The first was that he observed for 24 hours to avoid any complication. Well, after a few hours, he left me alone so I could spend time with his friends! I was sleeping when he left and when I woke up, I had pain.
When I called him and asked where he was, he, as usual, bothered and said, “Can’t you spend time with my friends?” I replied, “There is no problem” and I hung my phone. He returned two hours later, and we discussed it, but he left the house again. I don’t know how to communicate with him without causing problems. What should I do? I’m wrong?
—Wife of a separate husband
Dear Woman: You are not mistaken. What you have to do now is to take some time and evaluate the relationship you have with your husband. From what you have written, both spend most of the time living as single people.
Your husband is not clearly the type of parenting and it would be interesting to know how to react if the situation was reversed and you would have jumped to socialize -you with your friends. I will not use the word that comes to mind to describe your “better half”, but frankly, I think you could have done better in the spouse department. You have my sympathy.
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