Dear Annie: My best friend and I, both 54 -year -old, met two weeks before the nursery. Except for a couple of years, we have been friends throughout our lives. See you every few months when I am in the city to make an appointment of the doctor. Since last year, we have gone to concerts and a couple of comedy shows, and we attended our 35 -year high school meeting.
She has always been a drinker, but she has come out to the end where I do not like to be around her because she became belligerent. And her drink has only worsened since her mother died. Honestly, I do not know how to remember the events we attend. She has paid both tickets to each show, which I am grateful for, but honestly I do not know how much more I can attend with her.
With his mother’s passage, he inherited a significant amount of money. But the last concert was when things were surprised. She continued to talk about how I could change my life economically and I could work for her. To be totally honest, I really stayed under my skin and I was very uncomfortable with the conversation so I went to bed. I got up and went the next day before I woke up -because I didn’t want to see it.
Being the best friends for 50 years is quite surprising, and I love myself, but I will not be his employee. Honestly, I do not know or approach her everything. But I also want this to end our friendship.
– Feeling – confused to Kansas
Dear confused: Fifty years of friendship is incredibly special, you’re right. That said, even a bond that does not mean that you have to tolerate behavior that makes you uncomfortable.
It seems that the heart of the theme is derived from his drink, so this is where he would start. When it is sober, make you know that you have realized that she has been drinking more since she passed her mother and worries you how she affects her. This conversation could make a difference or none, but you will know what you have to do. From there, you can set better limits and paste them.
Instead of concerts and long nights where drinking can be puzzled, try changing your time together to things like coffee or lunch: daytime outings that do not revolve around alcohol.
As for his comment on the change of life economically, it seems that alcohol was really what he spoke that night. It probably meant that he was generous and supportive, but he found himself different for you. If you still weighs you, enter it now so you can erase the air from any resentment. A friendship like this should be strong enough to manage the hard conversations, although it may be completely sober before your relationship can return to where it was.
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