Dear Annie: I am in a strange situation with my co -worker, “Jordan”. We have been working together for three years and we have always had a kind relationship and joking. Lately, however, his comments have crossed a line, not inappropriate in a sense of human resources, but too personal. It hurts me to be single, he comments on how “demanding” I have to be and even joked that “I will end with 10 cats”. I usually laugh at the moment, but then I feel embarrassed and upset.
We are in the same team, so I see it daily and I do not want to make things tense. But I also want to keep pretending that this does not bother me. How can I say something without doing -the uncomfortable or dramatic?
—To laugh
Dear not Laugh: If you have not expressed that they bother you, probably think you are in the joke. It does not have to be a confronted or uncomfortable conversation. Next time you make a joke you don’t like it, try something like: “We can’t joke about my dating life? I don’t look like fun.” If you continue to comment after expressing how you feel, it may be time to approach -more seriously.
Dear Annie: My little sister, “Megan”, has always been the most out of the family, and I have supported it through many: ruptures, drama of work, even letting me stay with me without rent for six months. He recently pledged and began planning a small destination wedding. I was surprised when he did not ask me to be his maid of honor. He chose a friend who has been known only for a few years. I tried to hide my injured, but when I finally asked him about it, he took me out and told me that he did not want to “mix the family responsibly”.
Frankly, I feel left aside and less appreciated after all I have done for her. I have not said anything since then. I should leave it for the sake of your big day or say -how much did you hurt me?
– went through the sister
Dear happened: Your sister’s reasoning may not be satisfied with you but it seems to be honest. Maybe after all you have done for her over the years, the last thing she wants is to load -with more responsibilities and favors.
If you are silent will leave you resent, express -gently surprise you and a little harm that you had looked at you. Otherwise, it would continue with the knowledge that weddings often cause unexpected options.
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