Dear Eric: I need you to make me over the head. I am married to two young children. For some reason, I have developed a huge enthusiasm about a boy working in my local supermarket. This is eating -alive! I hate that I feel that way. I think of him all the time, he has appeared in my dreams and I find myself looking for it when I go to the market. I know that logically this is so irrational and irresponsible, but you don’t seem to shake those emotions. I want it to end. I stop buying in this site until I can meet my event? How can I make these feelings disappear?
—Super Crush
Dear Super: Well, I won’t make you upside down (sorry). What I will tell you, from a safe and respectful distance, is that sometimes an enthusiasm is just a crisis: a way for the mind to explore an idea or blow the steam.
The best way to get it to go is to separate -the topic of the survey or talk -with someone who will not judge you and can help you see what is below. (A third option is to list everything that is wrong with the crisis, but we focus on the first two.)
Perhaps only the supermarket attracts you, or maybe there is some other necessity that is not satisfied in your life or marriage. Act as the police designed for yourself will not solve it. It could be nothing more than it is worth digging a bit to see if there is something you can get.
It is also good to follow your usual market. When you do, remember -you, “There’s the guy I am in love. That doesn’t mean anything. He’s at work. I’m going to leave him in peace. Now, in what aisle is the cereal?”
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