Dear Eric: My husband and I are at the age of 70. He works full -time, look at a lot of sports, is very much on his computer and he makes a turn. I work part -time, clean house, cook, clothes and work in the garden.
I know my husband loves me, but he does not seem to consider my feelings.
I love my kitchen but my husband thought he needed a lot of important changes. I said I liked it as it was. These projects started months ago. The kitchen is now a disaster and it is always too tired to work. There are other projects, adults and children, which are never achieved.
Either I will lose it or run away from home.
– Perplexed on projects
Dear perplexed: Both of you are doing a lot, even the thinking of a hard conversation about this mess of the kitchen is surely exhausting. Only the thought of a half-remodeled kitchen is enough to send me directly to bed. You have my sympathy.
It may not be needed, but see if you can find out a rest for yourself. Are there friends or family you can visit? Away from the place of construction -and telling your husband why -will help you breathe more easily.
Although your husband might have had the best intentions, the intention is not equal to the impact. And it will help you both if you are kind, but of course with how it impacts you. Someone may be achieved to help set the kitchen, right? Ask -you do it and give you a realistic calendar for when it happens. You can see the kitchen as another item on the task list, but this affects your life every day. Share -with him and ask -if he understands it. It should not be a heated talk, but it should be targeted.
If the goal of repairing the kitchen is not something that can make a clear plan, you can enter option B: A discussion about how the family budget can be restructured to allow the dam every day.
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