DAfter the date, the 33-year-old Kelsey Grst remained disappointed and exhausted.
Production manager from Rhode Iceland kept hoping exit The application experience would improve but not. So, two years ago, he deleted them. “I decided to stop waiting for me to start my life with someone and I just start to do the goals I had intended with my partner,” Kelsey said Independent.
Now the homeowner is, sharing your home with friends, a married couple who renting one of her rooms. She appreciates his financial independence, the ability to travel anywhere on the hat drops and learned that he is a happier single. “I found that I only have access to so peace and joy in my life when I will not make me feel the ways these people felt,” she said.
Kelsey represents an increasing number of US wives Shunning Dating and boarding life without romantic relationship.
Single women are on average more content with their attitude than men, study 2024 foundAnd the number of single women seeking love decreases. In 2019, 38 percent of single women demanded a romantic relationship. By 2022. Year, it fell to 35 percent, research research of PEW found. For comparison, 50 percent of single men looked for a romantic relationship in 2022. years, down from 61 percent in 2019. years.
Women also surpass men when it comes to college education – 47 percent between 25 and 34 has a degree, compared to 37 percent of men, according to Pew research. And the ownership of the house in single women also tickles upwards. 2022. 50 percent of single women without children owned their homes compared to 47 percent of single men, Pew also found.
Women find them not need partner – or traditional norms.
Moderator Subreddit / Singleandhappy Community, which asked not to be appointed to reasons for privacy, said Independent The community has grown from 10,600 subscribers to 17,400 in the last 12 months.
. “So I was like, okay, let me create a community for people like me who also don’t want to be a pigeon in these conventional expectations.”
Single women, many who belong to that crddit community, said Independent That the decision to actively stop stopping in search of “that” provision “.
Instead, some passed by becoming homeowners, their high-flying career priorities, traveled the world and became mothers. They say everything they nurtured friendships that confirm friendships and relations formed outside traditional romantic.
Like many women in the 30s, Kelsey emerged the idea of falling fertility. But no more. “Once I realized that the biological watch is not all and to finish all my ability to love and have relationships with children, I was like” you know what? “I could meet someone in my 50s or in my 60s,” she said. “It’s not over until it’s over.”
For the 28-year-old Construction Engineer of Phoebe, Origin from Chicago, and now lives in the suburban Detroit, which ends in her lifetime brought her clarity.
“He was really special,” she said Independent. “He was beautiful in more ways. But I realized I was even more happier single,” she said, adding not to want to get married. ”
“I think the relationships are a number of compromises at all,” Phoebe continued. “And I’m not a compromising person. I like to be able to decide on a mastery, go somewhere or don’t want to go somewhere.”
Phoebe is also the owner of the house. “It’s really comforting that I’m alone, I can afford somewhere and I don’t need to rely on someone financially,” she said.
Independence takes on many forms. Vicki Eberts, a 33-year-old cafe manager from Ohio, previously hoped to find that “Grand, romantic love”, but the deviation from the dating scene gave a perspective.
“Looking back, I now see a little child with some issues that don’t know how to be fulfilled without attention,” she said. “Knowing I can now realize that it’s not a romantic love I’m actually looking for, but something else.”
After a three-year-old relationship, he finished in 2023. years, Vicki found himself becoming more satisfied as every day. “I feel all over,” she said. “I don’t have to play anyone I’m acting or I’m not placing.”
Vicki, who studied in the UK in the UK in the UK, said she had never dreamed of marriage or had children, but instead asked for a life and adventure life.
“I recently realized that I like to be single for the same reasons for the same reasons that I am a permanent Child Choice: I feel free,” she said.
And the fall in the acquaintance is not only in heterosexual relationships. San Diego Native Sofie Champassak, 38, who is gay, decided to stop dating for about two years and would be celibacy from 20. October.
“I was going, had a few long-term relationships, I was a monogamous, tried again, and he would never know where the relationship could go,” said the clinical psychologist. “The outcome of whether it does or not.”
After her marriage ended in 2018. Sofie said she had entered the monogamous connection in 2021. year that has completed since. “I think he’s married, trying again in my mid-30s, not that things don’t work just let me let go of the control,” she said. “I learned that we continuously grow as individuals, and sometimes the person you don’t grow with you or with you. While I spilled so much more in my relationship and previous partners.”
There is also the growing movement of women who choose to become mothers without finding a partner.
Casey Alexander, originally from Minnesota, is 41 and expects his first child in June. It was previously “on the fence” regarding the children, but after became the egg donor for his sister, her mother died more than a year ago, her priorities became clear.
“It became very clear to me that I didn’t mean to delay that I became my mother,” she said. “About the same time, I decided to get down with Dating apps. ”
Like many women, Casey said she felt she put in much more effort in men and goes out than she returned. Stepping out of the application was relief. “I think I knew, even before I stepped back from that, that it was something I should cut for my life,” Casey said.
Casey bought a home in the upgraded New York with two friends. The three have their space and will raise her child there.
The gallery said that it still experiences a lot of life just like couples, referring to a deep and strong network of friendships and family bonds. “I’m just doing this with these other people in life. We think about the self-contest, but it’s just different interests,” she said.
Mom to be supported by Single mothers of choice The group, which advocates for women who want to have children without partners, and they helped over 40.00 women. “Every year we get more new members than the previous year,” said the President of the Organization, Kat Curtin.
“Stigma has changed,” said the first floor, stating progress in fertility and better career options for women. “There is more awareness of being able to do it. Being a single mother of choice doesn’t mean raising your child.”
Before she became president, Kat joined as Article 2014 when she left the premise she was supposed to find her husband before he had a child. “I knew I could live without ever having a partner or husband,” she said. “But I really didn’t think I could don’t want to stop dating me for the freedom because I hung out in a way that felt like a job. There was no fun.”
After lasting six years of fertility fight, Kat was born to her now a 5-year-old daughter Nor. It is also in touch, which sets it possible because the pressure is removed to find cooperation.
“I’m also confident and comfortable that if my partner and I don’t work, he has a role in the nor’s life,” Kat said. “But I completely define as a” mom and family “nor. We are a nucleus and I raised it alone.”
Casey, Meanwhile focuses on the immediate arrival of her baby and said “empowering” to see the women before before her and headed alone – although she was open to the possibility of a future relationship.
“I think more that other women are doing things alone, which we are more weakened by ourselves,” said things conventionally happen, “he said things conventionally happen,” he said things that were usually The event, “Casey said.
“The more we talk about these things, it’s easier for people to realize that there are other ways you can do your life,” she said.