Dear Eric: My niece contacted me and told me that I came to a university meeting near me. She wondered if she and her family could stay in my house over the weekend. I liked to have them and they had a good time. My wife and I cooked several meals for them and provided them with a car. His last night, we all went out for dinner (six of them and two of us), and when the bill arrived, he was placed on the table between my nephew and me. He never did any kind, so I got it and paid for everything. He did not offer to share and, in not doing it, he did not give me the opportunity to express my generosity and say, “I have it.” I felt disappointed and used. How would you handle it?
– hible tinle
Dear Uncle: Oh! Your nephew should be offered to pay. Or, if this were not within the family’s media, I could have said something previously and find another way of gratitude. Did they bring a gift basket? Did they send a note of thanks? Surely I hope.
For now, you may have said, “Will we split it?” Or even, “Would you mind trying to treat us?” Although it seems that you already had to deal with them. Maybe he sensed this and was trying not to insult. However, no one wants to take on his generosity. When the check comes, it is best to put expectations on the table before credit cards.
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