Dear Abby: I have been going out with this boy for five years. Two years ago, one of his friends came to me through a text. I told her I am not the kind of woman who cheats. Respected this and did not send me a text message again. I told my boyfriend the next day, and he doesn’t trust me anymore! Since then, he asks what I do and where I am and accuse me of lying every time. He thinks I slept with each of his friends. I keep track of me. He put the cameras and accuse me of removing everything.
I never cheated on her, I didn’t even think about it. All his allegations move me away. He wants to take a lies detector test to show that I am innocent. I don’t think I should have to take -one when I don’t do anything wrong. I literally sit in my house and I go nowhere, but in the grocery store. I do not speak with one person.
I chose to do all this to stop accusing -me, but always find something wrong. Should you do this test to prove that you were wrong with me all this time? Part of me worries that even if I do this test, you will find something else and never stop.
—Prisoner in Ohio
Dear prisoner: Red flag alert! Your boyfriend’s insecurity is out of graphics. Your control behavior has nothing to do with you and everything to your own insecurities. What makes you is ill and abusive. You will never be able to assuue the suspicions of this man.
For your safety, I urge you to end this romance while you still have enough self-esteem to manage it. If you are afraid of your safety as you do, contact the National Domestic Violence Care line at 1-800-799-7233 and ask for guidance.
Dear Abby: Some of my friends discuss their plans before me without inviting -me. I am right to feel -Me excluding me? I am a woman in the late 1920’s, and I feel chopped when friends and roommates make plans to hang out without me while I’m there. An intimate friend often reminds me of the girls’ nights and outputs with our mutual friends. It hurts me and made me feel like not being part of the group.
When I told them how he made me feel, they assured me that we were really friends and they told me that he was “too sensitive”. I value these friends. Since they are roommates, I can’t help them. Mostly, they are kind and conscious. Should the feelings of evil reappear or to let me fall and withdraw -me?
—Odd girl outside
Dear Girl: You may be “too sensitive” but your roommates are not sensitive enough. It is rude to do what they have been doing. If I thought you mention your feelings of injuries, I would help the situation, I would also advise you to do it. A better course of action would be to let go of the problem and concentrate on making new friends.
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