Dear Abby: I am fortunate that most of my neighbors are kind and considered. We all liked to share each other’s celebrations. However, there is a family between the five homes with which we have never managed to connect us on a personal level. Despite our efforts, such as giving away and food, they have always been unanswered. Although there is no animosity, there is no relationship either.
Recently, there has been a problem that is becoming more problematic. His garage is so full of belongings that they park the car out. Unfortunately, the car has an extremely sensitive alarm system that goes out several times during the night. I have witnessed that he was triggered by his cat jumping in the car. The alarm sounds 15 to 20 seconds, and it is strong enough to interrupt sleep, which has been a continuous problem for the last six months.
I consider myself a generally easy person, but this is frustrating. What is the most respectful way to address this problem with the family, since we have had a limited interaction with them?
—Sleepy a Bellevue, Washington
Dear Sleepy: Write a note to the couple and explain that for the last six months their car alarm has awakened you. Note that the cause may be that your cat jumping in the vehicle at the morning hours and ask if the alarm can be less sensitive or if your hairy family member can be maintained.
They will not know that there is a problem if you do not inform you that there is one. (I wonder how the rest of the neighbors feel?) If the disturbance continues, you must inform -as a nuisance to the Association of Home Owners, if there is one or the police as a last resort. You have my sympathy.
Dear Abby: I am 66 years old and I have been diagnosed with moderately aggressive prostate cancer. Soon I will start radiotherapy. My wife knows and has been very supportive, but we have not shared it with my children, brothers, family or friends.
One of the reasons to be silent was that my daughter-in-law was waiting for his first child and did not want to ruin his joy. Now the baby is here and I still do not feel comfortable to inform them. What is your opinion? I should say, keep it secret or let my wife say them later, shouldn’t they survive the treatment?
—Secrettime in California
Dear Secret: To say -or not to say it is a very personal decision. May depend on your reason because you don’t want anyone to know your diagnosis. Consider the announcement of the announcement until you have started treatment and see how difficult it can be (or not).
If you need emotional support, you may want to say -those who happen to you or unite -you are to a cancer support group. It would be unfair to your wife to make a delay informing your children, siblings, relatives, etc. Until you have disappeared so that you will blame you to maintain your condition.
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