Dear Annie: My husband, “Mark”, and I have been married for eight years and we have a good relationship. We have always put our heads on his mother, but we recently started colliding with her. He has always been a bit overflowing, but lately he feels as if he tries to control our lives. It will be abandoned without warning, he will criticize how our two children are raising, and we will even question how we spend our money. Last week it fell when our daughter was on the iPad (we set up screen time for her), and continued for 45 minutes on how bad screens for children.
I tried to set limits but Mark does not back up me. She says she is as she is and she should leave. It seems to have just shot away from the back. I do not want to cause a rupture, but its constant interference resents me -and he.
How can I approach this without creating even more tension?
—Feling stuck
Dear Feeling Peated: Start explaining -How much how do your mother’s comments come to you. You may not realize how much your unsolicited advice is upset. With him next to you, you can be guarding to give his comments to the outbreak and quickly change the topic.
If this does not work, you may have to sit with her and have a direct conversation about how her comments are not just unpublished, but harmful to your relationship with her.
Dear Annie: I am 64 years old. As a child and teenager, my grandmother used to complain -not to send notes of thanks, as many of your readers have experienced. During my pre -teenage years, adolescents and young adults, I would make handmade presents for every set of my grandparents. Very thought, planning and time entered each gift, which included things such as hand embroidered pillows, aprons, ceramics, tree ornaments, etc. Call me hard, but I said to my mother, “Grandma has never written me, you indicate, and I made a gift. I will start writing when I do it! ”
I read these complaints in your column and I wonder how many grandchildren feel now as I did then.
—64 years of grandmother
Dear Grandma: Thank you for your letter and a very interesting perspective on this popular subject. Young people are expected to write notes of thanks as a way to show respect for their elders and put their ways to work. But the truth is that thank you is a two -way street. No matter your age and no matter the gift, it always feels good to be recognized and appreciated for it. Your letter serves as a good reminder.
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