I have been with my partner for nine years. Lately, I feel like he’s so distant and I can’t help but be annoyed. About a year ago, everything changed. He started hiding his phone, being secretive with his friends, had multiple social media accounts, etc.
I’ve had a sense of intelligence for a long time, and when I spoke to him, he told me to never trust my gut, which left me confused because my whole life, my gut has always been right. I have talked to him about his change in behavior many times, and he either gets angry and turns it on me or I just get the silent treatment.
I’m still with him. I love this man so much and I could see him being mine forever. But I’m at a point in my life where I’m ready to grow up and make my dreams come true. I’d love to have him by my side for this, but for the life of me, I can’t help but think about how he’s acting. I just want to know for sure what is going on but I feel like I will never know or get the truth out of him.
They say that what happens in the dark always comes to light. But when? I don’t want to work on things and then find out my gut was right and break my heart even more. I want to trust him and grow old together, but at this point, I don’t know what to do. can you help
—Torn between love and doubt
Dear Torn: Your gut has sent you a message, and you should absolutely trust it. Your spouse has been stringing you along, dismissing all the red flags you’ve noticed and making you doubt yourself. In a healthy and loving relationship, he would do whatever it takes to ease your anxiety and prove that he can be trusted. The truth here is that it cannot be.
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